The Best Gift!

God went for the jugular when he sent his own son. He didn’t deal with the problem as something remote and unimportant. In His son, Jesus, he personally took on the human condition, entered the disordered mess of humanity in order to set it right once and for all. Romans 8:3 The Message

During the first years of our marriage, Randy and I did what most newlywed couples do, we alternated holidays between our two family units. The first Christmas we spent at the Mickler household, I fell in love with a nativity set which belonged to his Mom. When Randy’s Mother died, it was passed along to us, and we have it still today.

The nativity was not a Lladro, Lenox, or a Waterford one, but rather one very simply made. The set consisted of a stable with corn husks for the roof, the Holy Family, two cows, two sheep, one shepherd, an angel, and three wisemen. The stable had a little door on the front which folded in so that all the figures could be stored inside. Simple but so meaningful.

The baby Jesus wasn’t cocooned in a blanket, but rather he was awake and partially unwrapped with his arms outstretched. He seemed to be saying to all, “Come unto me all ye who labor and are heavy laden…I am here to save you!”

I have come to firmly believe that in this season of gift giving, the best gifts are the simple things. Years ago when we were newly married with children, there were no cell phones, no email, no texting, so when I called my Mama and Daddy or they called me, it was from a land line. It is hard to multitask while staying within the parameters of the phone cord!! My Mama was always sensitive to our busy household, and almost every conversation ended with her saying, “Don’t let me keep you.” She continued to always say those words even after cell phones became the norm. After she died, I reflected on how valuable the little things like getting to speak with her actually were, and I vowed then to always make time for others.

Sometimes, the best gift we can give or receive is the gift of time. For example, a week or so ago I was in the doctor’s office and just asked the nurse, “How was your Thanksgiving?” She teared up and told me about her recent divorce and how hard it had been to share her children for the holidays. After we talked for a few minutes, she said, “Oh, I didn’t mean to tell you my life story, but it helped so much to say it out loud!” The best gift I could give to anyone that day!

It’s interesting to me that we stress so much about what we will give our children, our grands, our family, and friends, that we forget that time spent together and valued is probably the best gift we can give each other. I heard the story of a wealthy merchant who decided to give gifts to a poor friend of his for Christmas. He gave the man multiple wrapped gifts and a sealed envelope. The poor man was so excited about the gifts that he forgot to open the envelope. His wife found the unopened envelope among the wrappings and trash and put it in a drawer for safe keeping.

A year later the merchant died, and during the remembrance of him, the wife remembered the envelope. Inside was a blank check with instructions to fill in any amount! The poor man filled in an amount and ran to the bank to cash the check, but the account was closed. He could have been rich, but he focused on the trival gifts rather than the gift that really mattered.

It’s truly a miracle when we stop our busy lives and carve out a little time to give someone the best gift of ourselves. The baby Jesus in our nativity set represents the miracle of Christmas. The figurine is so realistic that we can imagiine those little hands of His playing with toys, holding a Torah, and later fashioning furniture in his role as a carpenter’s son.

His little feet grew into strong ones able to carry Him from place to place to preach, teach, and heal. Those same hands and feet were pierced on the day he was crucified to hold up the body that was nailed to the cross.

The Son of God was born to us as a real, wiggling, kicking infant. God has given us the best gift, but a gift needs two people. One has given the gift, now it takes us to receive it! This Christmas remember Jesus is the best gift, and try to find time for the gift that keeps on giving.

Merry Christmas!

Infant holy, infant lowly, for his bed a cattle stall. Oxen lowing little knowing, Christ the Babe is Lord of all. Swift are winging, angels singing, noels ringing, tidings bringing, Christ the Babe is Lord of all. Lyrics by Piotr Skarga

Grinches!

For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23

Probably everyone of us, without exception, has either read or seen Dr. Seuss’ book or movie How The Grinch Stole Christmas. The book was published in 1957, and it was so popular that on December 18, 1966 the first movie version was aired.

The book written in poetry form tells the story of how the Grinch dressed up as Santa Claus, how he dressed his dog Max up as reindeer, and how he went to Whoville and stole Christmas. We remember how he climbed up on the roofs of the Whos, slid down their chimney and stole their stockings and everything that was under their trees. He stole all their Christmas treats and all of their feasts. Why, he even stole their last can of hash. And then, he stole their Christmas trees. He was stuffing it up the chimney when he was interrupted by Cindy Lou Who, who was not more than two. She asked a relatively simple question, “Santy Claus, why are you taking our tree? Why?” The Grinch did what all grinches do, he lied, “Why, my sweet little tot, there’s a light on this tree that won’t light on one side, so I’m taking it home to my workshop, my dear. I’ll fix it there and then bring it back here.” When he was done that evening, he had stolen Christmas from everyone in Whoville.

At this point in the story, we are all probably humming the song from the movie, “You’re a mean one, Mr. Grinch, You really are a heel; You’re as cuddly as a cactus, you’re as charming as an eel, etc.” The song goes on to call him a vile one with termites in his smile; and a monster who’s heart is an empty hole.

A grinch is defined as a person who is mean spirited and unfriendly. Grinches come in all different shapes and sizes, and I learned recently that we never know when one might cross our path. One morning while I was doing my regular swim routine, a new lady entered the pool area. Unfortunately, all the lanes were filled and several of us were sharing one. We all understand the rules, and most of us happily share our lanes with others who are waiting.

This particular lady obviously had no time for waiting, so she stood tapping her foot for a while staring at us all with exasperation. In a few minutes, she stormed out angry and absorbed in herself. A short time later when I went to the locker room to change, she was just coming out of the shower, and I made the comment that “I was sorry the lanes were filled, but if she’d just ask the swimmers, I was sure they’d share.” She jumped on me verbally in a way I’ve never experienced! Among other things, she informed me that she only had 30 minutes in her schedule to swim, and we had ruined it for her! I was speechless. The face of the Grinch suddenly appeared in my subconscious.

For some people Christmas is not a time of joy, but rather a time of anxiety, anger, and depression. There was a time when people who didn’t ehibit the Christmas spirit were called Scrooges but for this particular situation, the I like the term, Grinch. Robert Lynd made this observation, “There are some people who want to throw their arms around you just because it’s Christmas; there are other people who want to strangle you just because it’s Christmas.” As I struggled with the situation later, it became obvious that she must have been in the latter place in her life.

There are different kinds of Grinches around trying to steal Christmas these days, but three come to mind. The first one is the Classic Grinch who isn’t upset with Christmas itself, but rather they are upset with anything that gives others joy or pleasure at their expense and fails to put them first. The milk of human kindness has curdled in their lives.

Secondly, there are the secular Grinches. These are the folks that never say Merry Christmas, but rather it’s always Seasons Greetings or Happy Holidays. They aren’t opposed to trees, lights, and celebrations, but they just don’t want any religion involved. These are the folks that although we might never change their mind, we can show them kindness.

Finally, there are the apathetic Grinches. These Grinches could care less for the decorations, the cards, and the carols. It’s fine to celebrate Christmas, but they don’t need the fanfare or the hoopla. They just like to keep it simple which is fine. There are Grinches amongst us, but most of us who are Grinches don’t even know we are, and we would be highly insulted if anyone suggested it.

As we all know, the book ends with the Grinch’s heart growing three sizes because of the kindness and concern of Cindy Lou Who. Christmas is saved and the town of Whoville celebrates with the Grinch. Jesus Christ was born in a manger in Bethlehem with Grinches as well as Wise Men. He came to offer all forgiveness and eternal life, and that is worth celebrating!

A Blessed Life!

Blessed are the meek for they shall inhert the earth. Matthew 5:5

This past week, I watched with keen interest and sadness as the nation and specifically the state of Georgia honored our former first lady, Rosalyn Carter. This former first lady of Georgia and The United States of America was a woman of great intelligence, grace, beauty, faith, and loyalty. It would have been easy for her or any first lady to live a self centered life, but she concentrated on being herself in these positions and filled her life with things that matter. One only had to hear the testimonials of family, media, and friends to know that she will long be remembered for an her unselfish life. She lived a blessed life not because of what she had, but because of what she gave.

When I looked on the pew of the former Presidents, Vice Presidents, and First Ladies of this country, my mind immediately turned to the impression each of them has left on the people of this country, and I couldn’t see any better example of a legacy of service than the one Rosalyn has left. I have loved her since the day I found out that she brought her recipe for Plains Georgia Cheese Ring to the White House and “didn’t give a HOOT what anybody there thought about it!” It’s one of my favorite recipes!!

During this Christmas season, it is sometimes hard to keep in mind just what it takes to live an unselfish blessed life because we get too caught up in our own wants and needs. We want just the perfect gift, the perfect decorations, the most beautiful tree, and the best of everything. It would behoove us all to follow examples of those who put others first.

An unselfish blessed life does three things for us. First, it improves the quality of our lives. It gives us an appreciation for life and a comprehension of its higher values. Seeing people in need and giving to meet those needs sets a lot of things in perspective. What a gift to have people who focus on Angel Trees and give help to others.

Secondly, it makes you part of something greater than yourself. In the mid-1980’s the Merck pharmaceutical corporation developed a cure for river blindness. Unfortunately, even though it was a good product, potential customers couldn’t afford it. The company made it anyway and announced that they would give it free to anyone who needed it. George Merck said, “We try to remember that medicine is for the people it’s not for the profits.”

Finally, living an unselfish blessed life creates a legacy. Jack Balousek, former president of True North Communications said that there are three phases of this life: “learn, earn, return”. When we think unselfishly and invest in others we create the legacy of a blessed life.

During Mrs. Carter’s service as the camera spanned Glenn Memorial United Methodist Church where the service was held, my mind returned to 1973 when I sat in a pew there with several other young wives and watched our husbands receive the Order of Deacons in the UMC. It was the first step toward becoming an Elder in the church and beginning a career as a minister in full connection. I remember thinking, “Oh my gosh, this is becoming real. What on earth are we doing?” A blessed life is many times not one of our own making, but rather, following God’s lead through it all.

As Mrs. Carter’s service ended, the choir sang a benediction of blessing by John Rutter which my hometown choir usually sang every Sunday. The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you. The Lord lift His countenance upon you and give you peace. Amen. These words of blessing reassure us that the Lord wants for each of us a blessed life.

“You are blessed when you are content with just who you are, no more, no less. That’s the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can’t be bought.” copied

Rosalyn Carter’s Plains Cheese Ring

1 lb. sharp grated cheese

I cup mayonnaise

1 cup chopped pecans

1 small onion, grated

Black Pepper

A dash of Cayenne Pepper

Mix and place in a mold. Serve with Strawberry Preserves in the middle and crackers!

Enjoy!